This article establishes the authors’ pre-conceived premises about certain human behavior then goes into how pride might affect the interpersonal communication of that person. He explains how pride would be a deterrent towards taking a risk. The overly prideful person would be content to remain in the station at which the level of pride cannot be altered. A risk would introduce the opportunity of failure, a failure too big would be more than that person would be able to bare. Therefore small risks are the only way to live for this overly prideful person. In his opinion pride also inhibits the ability to be vulnerable, from where trust comes from. To the overly prideful person vulnerability is a weakness, placing him/herself on a pedestal were that weakness in never on display would the logical outcome for this person.
The author of the article does a good job of trying to correlate both pride and risk taking but doesn’t draw on any scientific research to state definitively that he is correct. It does make, on face value, logical sense but his definition of pride would be rejected by some. His opinion on vulnerability and pride also hinges on his definition of pride, while his line of thinking makes sense like his other conclusion it isn’t grounded in any scientific research.
This article compares pride to a wall. He introduces the idea of how that wall might start of thin but get thicker and thicker as you allow it to mold your relationships. He explained how pride can be extremely toxic when it begins to dominate your personality. Not allowing yourself to be seen as the “loser”, or choosing not to communicate your feelings because your pride wont allow it, is how he sees pride as a wall. It begins to separate the person from reality into one where he/she can safely maneuver the ego which that wall has helped create. He gave a personal anecdote about his uncle, and how his pride allowed him to safe face all the way to his death bed, but with no one around to see it. He writes that pride is the biggest cause of loneliness.
This article rests its conclusions on the authors personal anecdotes. His friends relationship, his lonely uncle and his own intimate problems with his wife. While its not enough to gain an understating on how pride might affect a broad swath of relationships, for example worker boss relationships, his anecdotes shine a well articulated light on some of the complexities that might arise in our own more personal relationships. I found it interesting how he explained how once an ego comes to define a person, it starts to suffocate any relationship that doesn’t pierce said ego. The fact that he pivoted to his uncle on his death bed, dying alone but proud, gave a powerful example that hit home for me.